Is you past defining you?

Last night I spent time talking to the girlfriend about some of our past experiences and our family backgrounds.  As I found each of us sharing our past experiences it struck me how real all those things were to me again now that I was talking about them.  Things I don’t think about on a normal basis but when I did bring them to the front of my memory how they had shaped a lot of my actions in life.  We talked about parents about uncles and aunts.  It just came to me how much we don’t know about our past also.  It also got me to thinking about how much I wish I knew.  Everyone has a past some that we share with others and some that we don’t.  I wonder what some of my families truths were.  I wonder what type of people they were on the inside. 

These wonders are normal because the human heart wants to know where I came from.  What gave you your traits?  Who had blonde hair in your family?  Where did the curly hair come from?  All these different questions and some of us never find out the answer.  Some families are not as close as others.  I have family I would not even know if they were standing in front of me.  Some families have reunions every year.  Some never see each other until someone dies.  I have found both of these have positive and negative traits about them.  It is amazing to think that a lot of our happiness and habits is based on someone I have never met because they passed those traits and habits down. 

In the case of some of our inherited traits and attitudes we need to learn better ones if we are going to rise above where we started.  Most people born into a way of life stay in those habits all of their lives.  If you are born into a wealthy family you normally stay wealthy.  If you are born into poverty you normally don’t rise about poverty.  Why is this?  Most of the habits and attitudes we have in life are passed down from one generation to the next.

I don’t say these things to say you can’t rise above.  I am working in my life to rise about right now.  I am making some huge changes to rise above what I was taught.  But to make these changes I have to think and act different then I have before.   If you want to change your life you have to change the way you think first.  Then the universe will catch up.  I am working to change these things now.  It has been a slow process but I am making very good progress.  In the coming weeks I wanna share some of the mindset and action changes I had and are still making.  Please if you see a way you have had to change your habits to rise above please let me know. 

So with those things being said.  Think about your life and your habits.  Are they past down?  Are they serving your purpose in life?  And are you living in the moment in love or are you living in fear? 

Thank you again for reading.  Much love.  Nameste.