Focus

I have written on this subject before but today i had such a realization of how important focus really is in life that I had to share.

In the law of manifestation it states what we focus on grows and continues in your life.  So what ever that we give our attention to will become more prevalent in our lives.  What we spend our money on will take a bigger place in our life.  WOW.  So if we wanna see where we will be in 6 months look at what you spend your time doing today.  look at what you spent money on today that is what you will be spending money on in 6 months.

In the movie The Secret they speak about the law of attraction and that you can manifest things in your life if you focus on them and feel them then they will come in your life.

This works for negative things in your life too.  If you spend your time lying about your life to make it sound better it will always be that way.  you will always have to lie to make your life better instead of making it truly better.  IF you spend your time looking at negative things and around negative people then your life will never get better cause the influence on you is negative.  If you never try something new then you will never ever have something better then what you have right now.  This is such a huge truth in the area of self development.

So If you are a reader do something this week that will get you out of your comfort zone.  If it is as simple as trying a new food or going for a walk in a new park.

Thank you again for taking the time to read this.

We take time to cry.

This is actually inspired by my daughter this morning.

So many times we take time to cry about what has happened to us.  And we take so much time that other things pass us by.  I noticed today that a simple task can turn into a huge emotional issue if we let it.  I see this in my life a lot.  The boss asks you to do something.  You take time to bitch about how she asked it and what she said instead of just doing it.  The boss asks you to do something you do it but go to the smoke circle and bitch about it for 15 minutes and poison others day.  Some one insults you to make themselves feel better and you take it on yourself and hurt for hours even days.  All of these things can bring us down and take our emotional health down.  We start to question ourselves which kills our confidence and our gratitude.   With out both of these things we find ourselves choking and Dying inside because the garden of life can only be grown in good positive soil.

I have started to learn what one of my teachers has been talking about for years.  Instant forgiveness.  This is such a strong thing.  To say they are human also and move on let it go and move to the next task or thought is so powerful.  It is a slow process for me to have learned but i am slowly reducing the time i stay in hate and forgiveness.  I think this is important to know that it will not happen over night.  It will take time to heal from the past and you should feel pain and understand that it is part of being human.  But to let that rule you for longer then you need to heal to let that effect the way you treat others.  That is not the way to live a truly happy life.  I am starting to learn in life that we must live every moment to the fullest. and forgive ourselves when we don't.  As my father always says there is only one perfect man they hung him on a cross.

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Truth

Over the past few days i have found the power of truth in lives.  and this i believe is the next step to happiness actually should probably be the first step.  One of my mentors david wood says to tell the truth all the time with compassion.  I truly believe this is the only way to true happiness.  Because if honesty doesn't run in your veins then the life you lead is just a lie.  The things and "happiness" you attain is just a lie.  You can attain things and have a lot of possessions and that can look like happiness.  But when you lay your head on your pillow at night you can't rest because you are trying to keep up with the next lie.

I have lived my life telling lie after lie.  I have said on my blogs before i am addicted to lying and always will be just as a alcoholic will always be that way.  I am doing a lot better with the truth and knowing that my true story is worth of being told.  It may not be the glamour life of some others but it is mine and it has brought me here.  My past has brought me here but does not in anyway define what my future will be.  i am proud to be able to write this and help some people.  

Truth in life and words always finds a way to happiness.  it may drive some people out of your life.  but those that leave never wanted the true you anyways.  It may angry some.  But you don't tell the truth for how is effects others.  you tell the truth because that is the only way to truly be free.  you can say the truth with compassion for others and good will in your heart.  But the truth will always be there and should always be told.

Am i perfect at this NO.  I have told big lies little lies all kinds as most of us have.  This society has made it such that it is encouraged.  Just tell a lie to make others feel better. but to be honest that doesn't help anyone.

I truly hope this writing has helped you in some way.  God bless you

Can you find your Happy place?

In the last post i wrote about true happiness and what I think is the broken western system of happiness.  To have things is not the true path to happiness.  Well today i wanna talk about one thing that i think can bring happiness and why i believe that it is a cornerstone of a true happy life.  

I truly believe that gratitude is a cornerstone of a truly happy life.  Gratitude is the key to seeing things in a different lens then what the world teaches.  When you truly look around you will not see what you don't have but what you do.  In america we have so many blessings that we over look and wish for the next best thing.  That type of happiness that will never be obtained because you will always be seeking the next thing.  I am a firm believer that when we start looking at what we do have and being thankful for those things that the things we can be thankful for multiple.  This is the simple law of attraction.  When we focus on what we do want then the universe gives us more of that.  This is one of the basic laws of the universe.  when you are around positive people your life becomes more positive by default because you stop looking at what is wrong and look at what is right.  i think this is one of the most beautiful things in the universe.  We can simple be ourselves and look at the positive things in our lives and we will see more of them.  

This Function ,however, can not be achieved over night because we were not taught to think about the wrong things over night.  It is a lifetime of the society teaching us these things. One of the simple things i have learned to do is to keep a gratitude journal. This is easy very easy to keep.  Every night before you lay your head down on your pillow just write down 3 things you are thankful for from that day.  Then take one positive interaction and write about it in length.  Go though the action bit by bit and break it do.  this will release your intention to live a happier life you into the ether of the universe.  Then take it s step further tell the people in your life you are thankful for them.  Having gratitude for someone and not telling them is like have a car with no gas.  You have to tell people how you feel for them to know it.  

Also a great app for the iphone that i have been using it the happier app.  It lets you share your happy moments with others.  

Thank you again for taking your time to read my blog and what i believe can truly help you in life.  May you steps in life be guided by your hearts desires.  

Have you found True Happiness?

This starts my week of posting at least twice a week.  I am going to make a theme for the next few weeks of happiness.  The dalai lama says the purpose of our lives is to be happy.  The reason we do what we do is a hope for happiness either now or in the future.  I am starting to truly understand what the pursuit of happiness is and what happiness truly is.  In this writing i am going to talk about why i believe we were taught the wrong thing in the society about happiness.

When most of us were growing up we were told that to be happy we had to have things.  Look at the tradition of Christmas for a lot of us the ones we remember are the ones we got what we wanted in life.  This is how most western culture children are taught.  the harder you work and the more you have the happier you are.  You will be happy once you reach your goals.  This to me is a lie.  The thought that only things outside yourself can make you happy is one of the biggest lies of the western culture.  It keeps the economy going and keeps you in a prison of going to the next thing never truly finding that happiness cause once you reach one you are not longer happy cause you are reaching for the next.  This leads to people never feeling that they are good enough which leads to low self esteem which has most of you know is what i think is the biggest problem with the world today.

I have been in this mindset most my life.  I have been told by this society i have not achieved enough to be happy.  I am a 32 year old man that lives with his mother and lives on a tight budget.  So by the world standards i am not a success and should not be happy.  I got a new car and didn't truly feel happy cause i needed a new home.  It is funny when i look at it has a witness the more debt and the more things i have should make me happy but just brings me more stress over the money.  I am starting to learn what happiness is truly is and how to get there.  the next few posts will be about happiness and how i feel we can reach that happiness in a true sense.

Intention and the new year.

My intention with making a new blog called eddavate was to regularly write about finding purpose as i go though my journey in this life.  I wanted to share my education and motivate others at the same time.  i have not been consistent in the writing of the blog and the material that i share with those that read it.  With this new year i am going to be changing that.  I will have a schedule of when i write and are going to focus in on things that i can share and spread.  Starting this year i will be writing twice a week and going to be researching different people and different things that i believe can help others.  the twice a week will not be a set days of the week but twice a week.  I thank you for taking time to read this and the future posts.  Please share with friends as i write and you enjoy.  The first thing i will be writing about is the holidays and gratitude.  I will release this writing on 01/02/13.  Again Share with friends and i hope that you will enjoy that writings.