I am the victim

Wow What a statement that is.  I AM THE VICTIM.

It is something that a lot of people live on a daily basis.  I did for a long time.  No matter what my situation i always found a reason i was the victim of someone else's actions.  I think that can be one of the biggest defeating attitudes.  Because if you are the victim then even when you do achieve then it is not even your achievement.

I am around a lot of people in my life with the victim mindset.  When something goes wrong the first reaction is to find someone or something to blame for the mistake.  Think about it in your life at work when something goes wrong do the people around you or even yourself look to point the finger.  take the blame and push to to someone else because it will make your life easier.

Take a look at the place you are in life.  Why, in your mind, are you at this point in life?  When you tell your story in your head who is responsible for the place you have in this world?  For a very long time i told myself that it was others FAULT that my life was where it was.  But that also meant when i did something good i would not take full responsibility.

Life is about what YOU do with it not what others do to you.  The control of your life lives within you and you have the ability to create the life that you want.  So truly honestly no one is the victim of anyone else's action for their attitude or place in life.  We have the choice of how to feel about how others treat us and we allow them to stay in our lives or not.  Ultimately when life is over and you are in your last moments what we have done in our life will never be in others hands.  It will be in our hands to look at life and what WE have made of these years on this earth.

Remember You control your thoughts and actions no one else.

Your Birth right

The Definition of the word birthright is a particular right of possession or privilege one has from birth.  This is something that you have the privilege of having just by being born into this world.  It is something that you can take just because you breath on this earth.  

I Truly believe that everyone in this earth has the birthright to be happy.  It is yours to have and it is your right to take.  Happiness can be yours and it is your responsibility to obtain happiness for yourself.  It is no one else's responsibility to make you happy but your own.  No one else's actions, thoughts, or attitudes have any responsibility to make you happy.  Not your husband, your wife, or your family have the responsibility to MAKE you happy.  only you have that responsibility.  I have used the word responsibility a lot in the writing so far because it is so important to obtaining your birthright of living happy and in abundance.  

Only i can effect my happiness.  Yes others can bring good feelings to you and make you feel good.  But ultimately you have to make the choice to be happy in the situations gives you.  Think about this we have all seen someone in a great atmosphere that has chosen to be unhappy even though everything around them says they should be happy.  Well why can't we do it the other way.  Why can't we see the beauty in life in every situation that life gives us.  Even death can be a beautiful thing from a certain perspective.  i have a friend that is a hospice nurse.  Most people tell her that has to be a terrible job watching people die.  no it doesn't have to be a terrible job.  it is a beautiful job that God only gives to the strongest people on the earth to escort people to the next dimension of life is so beautiful.  See all it takes is a 180 turn on things to look at it from a different light.  This technique can bring you close to contentment with life in all situations.  To know that there is beauty in all situations.  Sometimes it is hard to see the beauty and you can't in the storm of the pain in the situation.  Some times it takes time to hurt and to let it bleed.  but the longer you stay in the sadness the harder it is to see the beauty allow yourself that time to bleed but look at from other perspectives as soon as you can.  

We are resposible for your happiness the moment you put in others hands is the moment you lose control of life and feel lost.  when we take the responsibility to heart and know every moment we have the choice of what we feel we are freed from others control and have true freedom in life to be who we are and to be happy.  

You will never find happiness because it lives inside your heart already.  

So take your Birthright and make the choice to be happy by changing your thought processes.  It is not something easy to do but it is your responsibility if you want to be happy and obtain your birthright.  

Rejection

There is a saying the when someone rejects you it says more about them then about you.

I have thought about this saying because i have been rejected here lately and it was one that stung.  By what we are told in this wise saying when this woman stopped talking to me it was because soemthing going on with her and not me.  This is a comforting statement because it takes all the blame off of us.  I do believe people reject us due to their own issues and they are unwilling to accept you for who you are because of their issues with not being open to you.  But i also think rejection has something to do with us.  a lot of time we go after the wrong people or put our needs to the back and the universe feels that and causes the rejection.  We send out thoughts and waves which impact the universe telling it what we wont.  If we think i don't wanna lose this person since we are focused on losing them that is what happens.

I have always felt very deeply very quickly for the people in my life not just in dating but in friendships.  This has always left me open for the hurt of rejection.  I have felt it before and know the sick feeling that someone doesn't want you in their life but you would like to be in theirs.  I have learned in life that everyone is in your life for a season and they teach you something.  That is the wonderful thing about rejection you can learn something everytime.  Because i know that if i am being authentic not everyone will like me.  And i love that fact.

Show your love in actions cause they yell while a text is just a whisper.

Today is great.  you have facebook and twitter.  You have blogs like this one that anyone can get their message out to people.  You have simple text messages that you can use to have whole conversations.  You Can talk and see family all the way around the globe.  It has created connections that before would have never been possible.  It is amazing to learn and see things that the generations before us could never do.  We learn more from the couch then ever before.  They can put a camera in a womb and see a baby grow.  WOW.  What a time we live in truly one of the greatest times in history.


I bet you could see this but coming couldn't you.


What has this done to us.  I truly believe it has made us a weaker people.  addicted to instant gratification and afraid to get out of our homes.  I am addicted to text messages myself.  Think of it you send one and want a response when you don't get one from that person you feel hurt and offended.  Then you get mad at them for not paying enough attention to you.  Then you send another then another.  it is an addiction.  Then you have facebook and other social media where you can log on and see what your"friends" had for lunch and what their babies look like without ever breaking beard with them or even seeing those small babies.  You can learn so much about people just by looking at their profile.  But we don't pick up the phone and call a friend and say i love you we text it.  We have lost the ability in a lot of ways to go and find those friends in real life.  Technology has changed everything about society.  Form the beauty in a handwritten note to the awesome feeling of talking to the girl or guy you are crushing on for hours.  The things we are loosing are beautiful and they shouldn't be lost.  Don't get me wrong technology has helped us reach more people and helped in so many ways.  But don't ever forget how to love someone face to face and express those feelings other then a text message or on facebook.

My you have a blessed day.  Call someone that you love and tell them today.  Or better yet go see them.  take them to dinner.  Show your love in actions cause they yell while a text is just a whisper.

Gratitude

I haven't posted in the eddvate brand in a long time.  To be honest this is because i have been doing some major soul searching.  I am not going to discuss that here for all to hear but i believe sometimes it is good to move yourself away from things to see where you truly are.  There are times where i have issues with gratitude and i focus on what i don't have.  I know this can be an issue for a lot of the western world.  I found this awesome list today that put things is perspective for me.  I hope it does the same for you.

Even in uncertain times, it’s always important to keep things in perspective.

1. You are alive.

2. You are able to see the sunrise and the sunset.

3. You are able to hear birds sing and waves crash.

4. You can walk outside and feel the breeze through your hair and the sun’s warmth on your skin.

5. You have tasted the sweetness of chocolate cake.

6. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.

7. You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.

8. You had a choice of what clothes to wear.

9. You haven’t feared for your life today.

10. You have overcome some considerable obstacles, and you have learnedand survived.

11. You often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc. – which means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.

12. You live in a country that protects your basic human rights and civil liberties.

13. You are reasonably strong and healthy – if you got sick today, you could recover.

14. You have a friend or relative who misses you and looks forward to your next visit.

15. You have someone with whom to reminisce about ‘the good old days.’

16. You have access to clean drinking water.

17. You have access to medical care.

18. You have access to the Internet.

19. You can read.

These are beautiful things that i and a lot of us take for granted.  We may not have what we want but if we focus on lack you will always have lack.  I will be writing another blog later today and posting tonight or tomorrow.  Have a blessed day.  And HUg someone.  

eddavate: Thoughts are things

eddavate: Thoughts are things:                                                                     Wow What a last few days Eddie has had.  It is amazing ho...

Thoughts are things

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What a last few days Eddie has had.  It is amazing how one mindset change that has been holding you back can change your outlook.  Reading think and grow rich has really showed me the power our thoughts have.  We limit ourselves in so many different ways in our lives.  The human spirit has so much strength in it and we just accept what we think we see.  We let others control the happiness of our days when it is the very lens we see life though that causes our days to be the way they are. 

We let our current situation define what our futures will be.  We let our current bank accounts define our future earnings. How much could we achieve if we truly knew that everything we think becomes something if we nurture it and let our subconscious mind marinate it and bring it into reality.  If we will just give up the fear that life and people have taught us over the years and just believe that the universe has our back.  If we could just learn that God gave us fear to push us though new situations.  We could achieve so much in life and have such a better experience on this little rock in space if we just gave up the fear and went through it. 

    Until the past few months I lived a life that I only saw the negative.  I was never going to have enough.  I was never going to be enough.  Money would run out.  And I brought a lot of this to reality.  When I would date someone I wasn’t enough for them so it would end.  I would think they are not interested in me and really they were I just read the wrong story by their actions.  It is amazing how much time and energy I have given the negative in my life.  I have always believed I wasn’t good enough to do anything in life because I hadn’t done much already in life.  That others were better because they were still married or they had a nicer car or whatever.  I would always find a reason I was not good enough.  But in the past few months I have learned that the very thoughts that I was not good enough was making me not good enough.  I truly believe I had to achieve to have the confidence to be able to achieve in my life.  That is Bull shit.  We must first love ourselves and believe we are worthy of love, abundance and all the juice that life has to offer.  I will a kick ass life to quote someone that has helped my journey a lot.  But only I can make it kick ass.  Only you can choose to have a kick ass life and to be happy every day.  I truly have found my calling in everyday life of being a day maker and helping other find happiness and though that I truly find an inner peace and happiness.