How many times have you said those words. This person hurt my feelings. I am hurt because they didn't do what i wanted them too. Why didn't they love me the way i wanted them too.
There is a lot of ways that we lead ourselves to being hurt. So many ways we can have our feelings damaged by the actions of others. So many times that we go though strife in our lives and the person that hurt us doesn't even know. So to have our feelings hurt is a human trait. For some people this trait happens on a daily basis. They have issues with others actions on a daily basis.
So are you happy with getting your feelings hurt? Is that a emotion that you like to experience? Most people i assume would say no to this question. So why do we allow others to control our emotions so regularly? We alone hold the key to that question. Because there is a truth of the universe you always control your reactions to others actions. So if that is a universe truth then why do we react negative when we don't like that feeling of the negative emotion?
Well isn't that the 5 million dollar question of happiness. I think to answer the question fully we have to look at our conditioning. We as humans only have actually 10% of our actions on a daily basis that is not conditioned responses. We are told from a very young age how to react to actions from others. We are taught that when we don't get what we want to cry and we might get it. If someone doesn't say what we like to look at the reasons in ourselves they said it. I honestly think that most of our conditioned responses that we are taught from our parents and others are wrong responses to the stimulus we experience in this world.
Take fear for example most parents have taught the children when you feel fear to back off. When you feel that fear response to not go further till you think about it. I have come to belive that the fear response is releasing the hormones to keep going. To give us the mental clarity to push though that comfort zone. But that is for another writing just using that as an example.
So if we are conditioned to give certain responses can we not change those responses to ones that would be better for our well-being and happiness. So when someone does something to you that would normally hurt your feelings can we not teach ourselves to have a different reaction and better reaction? We can decide to not hold on to the things people do to us.
This is just a thought i wanted to run past all of my readers. It is something to think about in everyday life. I have started using the 180 method to think about others actions differently. When someone does something that gains a negative response i turn that response and my thoughts 180 degrees from where they were. I don't always do it but with that a breath exercises i have learned that i can control my reactions. i will actually be sharing some more about this in my next blog.
I thank you again so much for reading. Please share this with a friend if you like what i write. it would help a ton.
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